We’re brought up in a culture where sending parents to homes is something we shouldn’t even think about. We live with them for as long as we want without having to pay rent and food to be placed on the table, so it is only filial and right for us to in turn take care of them when they are in their golden years. Don’t you agree this is what our upbringing is about?
However, we shouldn’t also be too quick to judge others who do send their parents to homes. Most times, we frown upon people who do this because we wouldn’t do the same to our parents nor do we want our kids to treat us that way.
But I’ve come to know people who think that their parents are better off in homes where they have proper care and people to look after them as compared to a life living with children who are away at work from dawn to dusk. Especially so when the parents have a medical condition that needs constant care.
Someone I know living in the USA was sharing with me how she had been doing some research on senior care arizona because she was thinking in a year or two, she won’t be able to support and care for her parent if the medical condition she has worsens. She is really planning in advance for this to happen, but who’s to judge her action? She’s doing it out of love and care and she truly feels that her parent will be in better care this way.
I didn’t ask if she talked and discussed this with her parent and whether there was a mutual consent, because I didn’t want to pry in case this was all her idea. I didn’t want to make her feel bad if this is what she has already decided on doing.
In her search for a suitable home, funnily enough she’s not made a step into any of those homes available in the area. Maybe she still has her reservations. All she’s done is to do online searches for assisted living az and senior care az (az for Arizona) and she found a bunch of results that turned up. She’s visited their websites and found out about the services and charges. I guess only when the time is truly right will she make the move to visit and shortlist the suitable home.
It’s really not easy for someone to think about and even plan such a move. It must feel something like “be cruel to be kind”, don’t you think? I really wish that the day I am gray and old I will never have to put my children up to make this kind of decision. I wonder who it hurts more, the parent or the children…
