In the last one year that our babysitter has been taking care of my our little boy, we’ve had no complaints because everything about the whole arrangement is perfect. It’s not only close to home, not even a minute from home to be exact, she is also the perfect nanny. Our little boy loves her too and is very attached to her as well as the other young kids she takes care of. So far it’s been a very healthy environment for him.
But things are about to change…Today I was informed that I need to look for a new babysitter because she has some family obligations that she cannot say no to. I’m devastated! I was actually in tears thinking about switching my little boy to a new babysitter.
Not because a good babysitter is difficult to find, but because I’m thinking how my little boy is going to take to the change. We can’t possibly explain to him what is going on for him to understand. I cannot imagine how hard it is for him to take to another babysitter who will be a complete stranger to him. He’s at a stage now where he recognises people and is quite hesitant to be carried by strangers. I don’t know how he’ll cope having to be placed at a totally new environment, and not seeing his beloved babysitter anymore! That’s the part that makes me ache for him.
The next thing that troubles me is where to find another good babysitter whom we can have total peace of mind, just like the current one. I really don’t know. I can’t think when I’m in this emotional state.
Any parents out there have had to endure the same situation? Advise, suggestions, recommendations of good babysitters, anyone?
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I can totally feel you. I sent Hayley to a babysitter who is also a stranger and I cried the very first day. I don’t know her and none of my friends actually used her before. Coincidentally she stayed in the same condo as a friend who happens to know she babysits. Imagine my fear. I just had to give her a try and pray that she will be ok. And thankfully she is quite ok although she very old schooled at times. Hayley is also very attached to her. I cannot imagine having to change her to another babysitter now. I really pity you..
Why don’t you get a maid and ask if the current babysitter can help you watch over the maid who will look after the baby? This might cost you more but it could work if she is willing.
Oh dear Penny. Thats really tough. Have you tried asking your present babysitter whether she knows another babysitter? Sometimes they are in the network so they know a friend or a relative who can help out. You can also ask around your friends, relatives, neighbours, colleagues.
My baby is almost at the same age with yours. For the past 1 year, he’s been looking after by my parents. And he basically only see me and my husband twice in a year. Yup ! And I was very scared too that he will resist us as he’s more attached to his grandparents than us ! I was surprised that its vice versa ! Now that he’s back for good with us, he’s so clingy to me than ever !
Don’t worry too much Penny, your baby will get through it. All it takes is just a little time and patience. And your baby will eventually get over it. Trust me.
Amy, so you have been through this before and I’m sure you’re relieved that things turned out alright for Hayley. I just hope the same happens for my boy. We’re now still asking around for recommendations and options…
Mumsgather, we’ve asked for recommendations from the current babysitter too, and she’s asking her other babysitter friends but no positive response yet. Crossing fingers for something to work out soon.
Rae, you’re very lucky! No one is better than mummy and daddy
Good for you that your boy is now clingy to you. Feels good, right? Hehe. It’s almost a mother’s pride…I hope you are right and I want to trust that this will all turn out for the best.