Want to be a better parent and raise kids who aren’t labelled as a ”problem child”? Then I highly recommend you to read this book for both your sake as a parent as well as for the good of your kids growing up with a positive life blueprint.
I came across this book called Confident Parents Remarkable Kids and I was quite drawn to it. After reading some three quarter way through it, I find that a lot of parenting tips that the author has shared are really good in terms of showing you how to raise your children in a positive and respectful environment.
Remember that children also need to be respected and their needs are also just as important as ours. So learning to deal and manage their destructive or negative behaviour smartly can help you to turn them around into more positive characters. And this is what I find to be most valueable because a character is for life. If you think you can easily change someone’s character or habits after they are formed, think again. Haven’t you learned something from trying to change your spouse? 
Anyway, I only have positive things to say about this book. It guides you through 8 simple principles in managing your children. These principles and methods may not be something new to parents who have read many other parenting guide books, but I like the way things are presented and explained.
The content of this book mainly touches on understanding your children’s needs and methods to deal with and manage them. It teaches you to understand the basis of what makes your child behave the way he or she did, and finding a way to communicate with him or her so that you are heard and understood.
The whole idea is to encourage your children to behave in a positive manner using an internal motivation within themselves rather than using external factors like threats or ultimatums, or creating the need in them to please others. In other words, they are behaving well because they want to and not because they are made to. There is a major difference and I hope you agree.
Personally I find the book easy to read and I find the methodologies to be logical. Although there are some ways that I thought is not as easy to implement, but overall I find it helpful. I may not practise them 100% the way it is suggested, but I do use these principles in my own ways. And I find that it’s a more pleasant way to deal with tantrums, unwanted behaviours and most importantly you gain greater understanding and empathy for your children’s misconduct.
This book is not only meant for parents who have misbehaving children. I think it’s generally a great book to help parents master the art of communicating positively with their children.
That’s my point of view about this book. You can read more description of this book below:
Book Description
When a child believes he is bad, he behaves badly—and parents react badly, which will only reinforce the child’s belief that he is bad. But confident parents can break this cycle and improve their child’s misbehavior, says child development specialist Bonnie Harris. Using Harris’s eight parenting principles designed to help children succeed, parents will learn the following truths: my child wants to be successful; behavior is the signal to my child’s emotional state; inappropriate behavior means my child is having a problem, not being a problem; my needs are no more or no less important than my child’s; I accept my child as a competent and unique individual; the behavior I focus on grows; I need to say what my child can hear; good discipline requires connection; and punishment breaks connection. Putting these principles to work allows parents to abandon the typical reward and punishment system of discipline (which alienates child and parent), and replace it with a more compassionate, successful approach that brings parent and child together. With Harris’s plan, parents will gain the confidence and skills to raise remarkable kids they will love to live with—and vice versa.About the Author
Bonnie Harris holds a master’s degree in Early Childhood Education with a specialization in parent/child development. She’s appeared on TODAY and she’s been interviewed on other television and radioshows, and in the New York Times. She’s written a feature for Working Mother. She is the mother of two 20-somethings and lives in New Hampshire.
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