Last night when I sat down to play with Ryan, I was half playing with him and half chatting with my mom. Halfway through, he told the granny to “go away”. I was quite upset with his behaviour because I know he understands what he had just said.
When we were alone, I asked why he asked his grandmother to go away and he responded something like “I want mummy sit here play with me”.
After a little more probing, I figured that all he wanted was 100% of my attention and time to himself and no one else. As flattered, special and loved as I felt, I do think that this isn’t ideal nor healthy.
What happens when there’s a number 2 in the family? If he cannot share me with the adults, how would he begin to understand that he has to share his mummy with a little sibling? Tough one, huh?
Any tips from anyone?
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tell him you already have a little one now in you and that he has to ALWAYS love and talk to the little baby so that he/ she can grow up. this way, he knows he has to share you with a little one and it also gives him a channel to release his emotions so he won’t say he is alone ….
Hmm…then I too have to roleplay that there is indeed a life growing inside me!
I wonder how he’ll take it…I guess there’s only 1 way to find out, right? 